Why do some women feel threatened by their stepchildren? Especially their stepdaughters?
I know of one woman who has forbidden her husband from seeing his daughter because she doesn’t like her. It is a lovely girl with good manners but she dared to stand up to the stepmother once. This child suffers from depression and has tried to commit suicide once already.
If Dad wants to see her, he has to meet with her outside of his own house. He is not allowed to help her with money, buy a car or any of the things parents usually do for their children once they come of age. But, he has to pay everything for stepmom’s child, including handing over a car and allowing her to live in his house.
Recently the Gran went to visit and dinner at a restaurant was organized. Stepmom had to attend but spat on the sentiment by sitting at another table.
I can put up with a lot but these shoes are hard to imagine on my feet.
I believe it is harder for a woman to accept another woman’s child, than it is for a man to accept another man’s child. I get all of that. But how could anyone be so mean, callous, cold-hearted, malicious and wicked? No wonder there is not one good stepmother in fairy tales. In days where so many women died during childbirth, stepmothers were a dime-a-dozen. Those authors knew what they were talking about.
Which brings me to the next point. Why is dad allowing this? Because he is too scared to stand up to his wife, at the cost of his child. Because it is easier to do what his wife says than to put up with her continuous moaning and bitching. Tis true. And too many men who fall for this one.
Wrong move Dad. You would only have to put your foot down for so long before mom gets the message. Or you could take away the credit card. You are after all the head of the home, why don’t you start flexing your muscles a bit? Yes it will be hard and yes it might take a while, but it will be worth it. And you know what? Once you have made the decision to swallow your fear, the battle is half-won. Nothing worthwhile comes easy but leaving it as not to disturb the peace is cowardly. You will regret it when you are old or sick and your children don’t visit (out of habit or because they think they hate you).
And stepmom, you are messing with the life of a child. You could be ruining a perfectly good human being. Take a chill-pill and step aside. Perhaps that is what the STEP stood for all along.
PS: I know that not all stepmothers are bad.