Here are two facts:
- The more you do, the more you get done
- The less you do, the less time you have even for little things
When my drinking was at its worst I hardly functioned. Everything seemed like an insurmountable mountain, so I just shelved it. Which meant I had to do the same with every new task after that. It all just snowballed. I copied what I had to do today into tomorrow’s calendar, then into the day after and so forth until even re-writing it became too much. The guilt and worry over all my unfinished business haunted my nights.
Under normal circumstances though, I find that even when I have a lot to do, there is always a bit of time to tackle something else. Because it is true that each day has enough time for the things of that day. And you will be rewarded with that wonderful sense of accomplishment when you have completed all you had set out to do.
Your body produces adrenalin when you are busy which propels you forward. It helps you do and achieve more.
It is so easy to get home tired and be unavailable to those who love you most. A good rule is to allow yourself and/or your spouse thirty minutes from when you step in the door to unwind. To do whatever you want. Afterwards it will be easier to face and listen to your family. We are not a chatty household. But we always know what is happening in one another’s lives. When there is a problem, I set the table and we discuss the issue at dinner.
I am always so pleased when I complete the evening’s cooking because it is the very last thing I have to do. After that I can officially wipe out the “5th of February 2012”. There is a great sense of relief in retiring to my bedroom. It is also the time that partners talk and enjoy one another.
Getting through each day without worry or stress requires faith. It also requires staying in the moment and not running ahead of yourself. When we were tied up on the floor during our armed robbery, I had the pleasure of realizing the concept of staying in the moment. There was no point in thinking about what they could do to us. What use would it have been had I considered that they could gang-rape me? And that they probably had AIDS? Or that they could shoot us? Instead, I stayed focused on what was happening at that instant, so that I could do whatever was best for that moment. The preservation of our lives outweighed all scary future scenarios. I was fully anchored in each exact second. Which created a sense of calm in everybody and ultimately saved our lives.
So, make a list of everything that needs to be done today. And don’t stress about it. Tackle them one at a time without worrying about the next one. And if there is something that you cannot get to, put it under tomorrow.
Because, tomorrow is a brand new day.